Saturday, April 5, 2014
If I don't tell, don't ask
I still have been in a much happier place since we decided to try for a baby. Brent has notices this too. Life seems to be coming back around. I think I was lost trying to find my place as just a wife, and now that we are trying to conceive I feel a whole new sense of purpose. That is all great, but I am starting to have zero patience towards other people. More specifically people butting into my life. Since we've been married people ask if I'm pregnant or when were going to start trying. It didn't annoy me much then, it was giving me hope that it would come someday soon. Now when people ask me anything baby related I want to tell them to shut up and leave me alone. I never realized how private this process is and that there is way more to it than I thought. One of my aunts called Thursday and asked if I wanted to come over for dinner and I told her that I'll have to see because I have a stomachache and she asked right away if I was pregnant. It's irritating that once you get married you can't just have a regular stomachache. And then of course it was the day I got my period! I wanted so badly to say, well this was our first month trying and I just my period today so thanks for pointing out I failed bitch! Iv become quite an evil little person in my mind =\ but I never knew there was more to getting pregnant than just getting pregnant. You'd think people would be more sensitive. And poor Brent, he wanted to cheer me up and asked if I wanted to play life that same day and I said no, you have babies in that game and we don't in real life. I think iv learned I'm not emotional through this process so far, I'm just mean. And to make it even worse, another aunt text me today asking if I was taking prenatal vitamins and I was so confused how she could know this, I have told three people; my best friend, my neighbor, and a friend that lives in California, and anyone reading this, note to all you- don't tell anyone. But then she said I posted something about it in a closed Facebook group about the young living essential oils that I use and my aunt does too. Duh. So anyway, I told her yes I am taking them. That it's good to be on them now even if we weren't trying for another six months. (Not sure if anyone gets on prenatal vitamins that early) but then she asked if I had a secret and I said no. She said she didn't believe me and she thinks I am pregnant. My response to that was, "I can send you a picture of my bloody tampon" (I told you I'm so rude now) but then she asked if I promise I'm not pregnant. Yes, I really really really promise. I asked her to not ask me anymore because if I were pregnant I would be forced to tell her. I want to tell people were pregnant when we are in my time and in my way. It sucks that people are asking and I just got my period and I'm very rude about this PRIVATE matter. So to anyone that wants to be nosy all I have to say is shut up and leave me alone. I'm already cranky and now you're really pissing me off! I'm glad people are excited but nobody knows what going on behind our closed doors. And the nosy annoying people are taking OUR (Brent and I) joy, sadness, anger, or rudeness away. It's our process and our emotions. Let us have them. This isn't anyone else's journey unless we invite you to take it with us. So if I don't tell, don't ask.
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I'm so glad you invited me in on this journey :-) I've been there...right after our miscarriage, people seemed like it was the perfect time to ask us about our future plans and such (not knowing we miscarried) and it tore me up. I vowed then and there to never ask a couple unless they've let me know they're ttc and even then..I have a hard time asking. It's just such a private, intimate journey and can be filled with so much pain or secret joy that you don't want the whole world in on it. Keep being firm and asking people to stop asking you cuz it's really ridiculous. Babies take a while to make!
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